... separating oneself, for becoming an individual, for encountering the world. So it is a complicated thing to be pushed by their parents into talking to me. 

With some, I can unravel that knot. Others just can’t get comfortable. For many teens – more often boys than girls, in my experience – finding words for the issues they are experiencing and the feelings they are having... it’s just impossible. But we try and we fumble our way along, and we find a way to talk to each other, and we get some work done. 

Some of the most rewarding therapeutic relationships I have had have been with adolescents. Their lives are changing every day – they themselves are changing every day – so the work is dynamic and very likely to be productive, since change is what I am all about.